From depression to victory
by Hercolena Oliver
(Durban, KZN, South Africa)
Do you also sometimes feel:
Sombre, Disappointed, Disdainful, Hopeless, Alone
Do you also sometimes feel deep in your thought and sombre? Do you lie awake at night in a state of anxiety? Do you awaken sometimes with wretched images within your thoughts?
Do you also feel like sometimes saying:
I cannot any more.
I do not want to any more.
I wish I was not even here.
You do not have to feel alone.
Depression is a sickness of our times. Many people suffer from depression. Many people have conquered depression.
What are the signs of depression?
A general feeling of tiredness, despondency and lack of direction. Lack of sleep and nightmares. Long term headache, tension, fear and anxiety. Neck pain, back pain and muscular pain. A strange tingling in your chest, throat, mouth or tongue. Occasionally a feeling of "I do not want to live any more."
How can I conquer this?
The following four steps indicate the path to victory. Follow it cautiously and triumph and freedom awaits you.
Put your relationship with Jesus Christ right.
God created you to live with Him in a relationship. If you do not live close to Him, there is something amiss in your life – a shortage – an empty space. You can try and fill this void with hard work, interests, hobbies, etc., but this space nothing or nobody can fill, except God. It is here that the triumph over depression commences.
God loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life.
The Bible says,
Joh. 3:16 "God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son, so that those who believe in Him, will not be lost, but will have everlasting life."
Joh. 10:10 "I came so that they can have life and that in abundance."
Now, why do we not experience any of this abundance?
Sin separated us from God.
The Bible says,
Rom. 3:23 "All have sinned and do not have part in the glory of God."
Rom. 6:23 "The reward for sin is death."
What is the solution now?
Jesus Christ is God's only solution
The Bible says,
1 Pet. 3:18 "Also Christ suffered once for our sins, the innocent and the guilty, to bring you to God."
Joh. 14:16 "I am the way and the truth and the life. Nobody comes to the father except through me."
It is not enough to merely know these facts.
You must personally accept Jesus Christ
The Bible says,
Rev. 1:12 "But all that have accepted Him, those who believe in Him, have the right given to become children of God."
Rev. 3:20 "Look I stand at the door and knock. If someone hears my voice and opens the door, I will go to him…"
You must accept Christ by means of a prayer, otherwise it would be exceedingly difficult to be cured from your depression.
For instance you can say, "Thank you, Jesus Christ that you love me too. I need you. I admit that I am a sinner and that I cannot save myself. Thank you that died in my place. I now bring all my burden of sin to you. Forgive me. I accept you as my saviour and Lord. Henceforth I want to follow you. Come stay in me and take control over my life as you hath promised.
The fact that you have accepted Christ and is a child of the Lord does not necessarily make your depression disappear. It is the first , but most important step.
Step two: Self discipline
You must understand that depression to a great extent is caused by a lack of self control and self discipline. In other words you get behind with your work schedule and later you are so far behind that you cannot motivate or discipline yourself any more to complete it.
This makes a person feel more depressed and your work schedule falls further behind and later you feel even less like attempting it.
The problem with depression is that your feelings get the upper hand over your self discipline.
You feel I cannot do the work – then later you cannot.You feel tired, even if your had a good sleep – then you are tired later.You feel lonely and alone – then later you are lonely and alone.You feel like a failure – then you become a failure.
Do not give vent to your feelings. See to your responsibilities. Continue with your work, even if you do not feel like it. Stand up, even if you feel like lying down. Discipline yourself. In the course of time it will become easier and you will obtain satisfaction through the tasks that you have already accomplished.
Step 3: Improve your circumstances
Depression is caused through circumstances such as
You do not enjoy your work. Your children are not in your control. Your house lacks the necessary necessities and luxuries. Your debt increases daily. The political situation is worsening by the day.
If you cannot improve or change your circumstances, a person becomes more depressed.
Try to improve your circumstances
For example, You do not enjoy your work – Try to obtain a transfer to another division or apply for another job.
Your abode does not have all required – Save money to buy appliances etc.
Your debt increases daily – Drastically curtail your expenses and buy only the necessary. Arrange with the bank or your debtors to pay off the outstanding amount with reasonable repayments.
Accept that which you cannot change
If you cannot improve and change your circumstances you must accept that there is sense in your circumstances. Make the most of it and learn from your problems. Remember: God has a plan with your life and He knows what is best for you.
Pray this prayer:!
Grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, courage to change what I can and the wisdom to know the difference."
Step four Practical hints
Do not pay attention to your feelings. Attempt your daily task regardless of your feelings. Your feelings will change later.Make a list of all the tasks you must complete and begin to complete them one by one. Continue until these tasks are completed.Work at depressing circumstances and try to change or improve these.Accept the circumstances that you cannot change.Read related material to overcome depression.Visit your clergy, doctor or psychologist and discuss your depression with him.Immediately cease your depressing thoughts and feelings and focus your thoughts on the positive things in life.
"Further, brothers, all that is true, all that is noble, all that is right, all that is pure, all that is beautiful, all that is praiseworthy – what attribute or praiseworthy matter there may be – on such you should focus your thoughts..and God who grants peace will be with you." Fil. 4:8